Cotter, a 36-year-old from Tucson, says the project began when he was having dinner with his family and they started coming up with ideas about what he should do with the albatross hanging in his closet. The result has blossomed into a surprisingly cathartic experience for many divorcees, who flood him with messages (and suggestions) from around the world.
"It's been a good distraction for me," Cotter says, "and I'm working on it with my brother, and that time with him is good for me in terms of healing and being distracted and laughing. It's good to have something light to distract from the challenge of divorce."
In the Weekend Questionnaire, Cotter talks about when he might actually punch someone, admits he cried during "The Notebook" and reveals he hasn't soured on true love.
AOL News: Where are you right now?
Cotter: I am sitting outside my office at work. I sell packaging materials, primarily cartons and foam bags.
What is your idea of a perfect weekend?
Having nothing planned and spending time outdoors. It could be anything like going to the park with the kids or heading up to the mountains, just low key and outdoors.
If I could grant you one superpower for this weekend, flight or invisibility, which would you choose?
I'd go flight. I've always had flying dreams. I think it would be a rush.
What would you choose as your last meal?
I would go with a hamburger and french fries.
If you had to enter a competitive eating competition, what would you want the food to be?
I'm going to say crab cakes.
Do you believe in true love?
I do. Definitely.
If you could go on a road trip with any three people, living or dead, who would you take, where would you go and what car would you drive?
I would go with my father, my brother and my buddy Ellis. We would take my Honda Element, and we would drive to Montana. I've never been there, but there's great fishing.
What's your guilty pleasure on the Internet?
At the moment it's blogging. I used to play cards.
What's the most embarrassing moment from your youth?
One time I jumped on a ketchup packet at Disneyland and squirted a friend's mother all over her clothes.
If you could pick one age to be for the rest of your life, what would it be?
That's a tough one because I have a feeling it's going to be an age beyond the age that I am right now. I might speculate that it's going to be 50.
Do you have a recurring dream?
Waiting tables and you can't keep up. It's been probably 13 years since I've waited tables, and I still dream about panicking.
If I offered you an island that had all of America's strengths and none of its weaknesses, would you move there?
Could I take everybody with me? I'm pretty happy where I'm at, so I'd probably say no. There are too many factors.
You're leaving the office on a Friday. What song do you put on in the car?
I put on Carolina Liar's "Show Me What I'm Looking For." That's a song I've been listening to lately because it has some significance for me. My father passed away; he died the day I got divorced, Sept. 30 last year. My brother called and told me my father had died, and when I got in my car, that song came on. So it's something I listen to a lot.
Are all babies cute?
No. [Laughs.] But mine sure were.
Do you believe in an afterlife, and, if so, what would you want it to be?
I do believe in an afterlife, but it's so hard to comprehend what it could possibly be like, or even what I would want it to be like. It's hard to imagine anything that you would want it to be forever. ... I guess the only thing I would say is a place where you reconnect with all the people that were meaningful to you during your life.
Do you cry at weddings?
No.
Are you able to live in the now?
Yes. I believe so.
How many true friends do you have?
I have a lot. If I had to throw a number out there, I would say 30.
If you could be buried with one memento from your life, what would you choose?
A photo album.
What's always in your refrigerator?
Milk.
If your blog were made into a movie, who would you want to play you?
Ben Stiller.
Would you be happy if your kids turned out just like you?
Yes.
You're standing next to a fork in the train tracks, with access to the lever that changes the direction the train will take. The train cannot be stopped, and if left as it is, it will run over and kill five people standing at the end of the tracks. But if you pull the lever, the train will change directions, killing the one person standing at the end of that fork. What do you do?
I would intervene.
If you had to lose one of your five senses, what would you choose?
I would go with smell.
What's the biggest mistake you've ever made?
I'm going to say going to work the day my father passed away.
Do you tip for takeout?
Occasionally. It kind of depends on the complexity of the packaging. It depends on a lot of things. The experience, the person that I'm dealing with at the counter has something to do with it.
If you could punch one famous person, who would it be?
I've never hit anybody. I'm going to pass on that one. My brother and I are always wondering when we're going to get into our fistfight, but maybe never.
What movies have made you cry?
I cried watching "The Notebook." That's the last one that I can remember. I'm going to get a lot of sh*t saying that. But the women will appreciate it. "Titanic" made me cry too.
Do you let dogs kiss you?
Depends on the dog.
On a scale of 1 to 10, how attractive are you?
I'd say I'm a 7.
If Barbara Walters wanted to get you to cry, what would she ask you about?
Probably my father.
If you had to enter a talent show, what would your talent be?
Maybe juggling a soccer ball.
If it were possible to know the date of your own death, would you want to know?
No.
What would I be surprised to find on your TiVo?
The only thing that I record for myself is "Tosh.0" [on Comedy Central]. I've got tons of kids' programs.
You're in the express lane at the grocery store. Do you secretly count the number of items people in front of you have?
I don't.






