I would not even begin to criticize the tone and substance of Oprah Winfrey's interview with the 56-year-old woman who was beaten beyond recognition just nine months ago by her friend's exotic pet.
Oprah is a genius in the art of the interview, and that comes from having a sense of compassion that can't be contrived. Even with all her accomplishments, her segment with Nash may go down as one of her finest moments.
But was it really necessary to show this woman's face? Did the veil need to be lifted?
Now Nash must face the ramifications of knowing that images of her will reach every corner of the Internet.
Moreover, this was done on afternoon TV. Do we not even make token gestures anymore to seem like a society that attempts to shield children from things they might not be ready to see?
I know many people were touched by this segment. My 78-year-old mother -- a true Oprah connoisseur -- was knocked out.
"It was unbelievable. I cried," she said. "I loved when Oprah went to wipe a tear from the eye on that woman's face -- the eye that wasn't even there."
My mom has been "down in the dumps," as she would say, having lost two close friends in recent weeks. Seeing Nash clearly put her in touch with her own inner strength.
"To have the guts to go on TV like that!" Mom said. "Charla Nash is one of the strongest women I've ever seen. That chimpanzee didn't destroy her, not the part that was inside."
Oprah had worked her magic. She lifted my mother's spirits. For that, of course, I am grateful. But my father, hardly a shrinking violet, had to leave the room. I'm sure he wasn't the only one.
Whenever disturbing media images make their way across the Internet, I'm reminded of those horrible photos of the torture and abuse at Abu Ghraib. It was necessary to expose those abuses.
But by the time these images become fodder for "The Daily Show" and "Saturday Night Live," they were reduced to cheap comedy.
I'm afraid that this poor woman's face is now going to become just one more image that gets shown over and over again -- and the dignity Oprah found in Nash's courage will be lost.
Already we've seen the infamous New York Post headline writers dub her the "Chimp Maul Gal." The New York Daily News drolly observed, "If Charla Nash still had eyes, she too would be horrified."
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Of course, it was Nash's decision to show her face. But as someone who has never been exposed to the burn of today's multimedia barrage, did she know what she was getting into?
And having spent the past nine months in the Cleveland Clinic, where she is hoping to get a face transplant, was she even in the condition to make such a decision?
When Oprah asked her if she was even aware of the extent of her injuries, Nash told her, "Not all the way, because it's less for me to worry about if I don't know."
The chimp that attacked her ripped off her nose, her lips, a large part of her scalp, and mangled her hands. Surgeons had to create a hole in her face so she could drink meals through a straw.
Only weeks ago did she learn that her eyes would have to be removed to quell an infection.
"I don't ask a whole lot about my injuries," she told Oprah.
"I know that I have my forehead," she said. "It feels like just patches of tape or gauze covering my face."
Nash wore a black veil through the early part of the interview. She said she wears it around the hospital "so I don't scare people."
At one point, guards were stationed at her door so paparazzi wouldn't snap a photo of her.
Oprah duly warned her that once she lifted that veil, her picture would be broadcast "all over the world."
"That's fine," Nash said. "I'm starting to get stronger and ready for everything."
I hope that's true. But one thing is undeniable: It's nearly impossible to say "no" to Oprah.
But again, the question remains: should Oprah have asked Nash to lift the veil?
As a journalist for 20 years, I have never been famous for my own self-restraint. I can't say I would have done anything differently if I had been in Oprah's shoes.
Just a few days ago, I wrote a story about a woman who suffered a severe case of vaginal prolapse. This was an extremely candid woman, and when she spoke of her condition she bluntly said, "My vagina fell out of my body."
Despite the sensational headline, I was extremely proud of the story. The woman is no crank. She is a 39-year-old school psychologist from Kenmare, Wash., and she very much wanted people to know about a real medical condition that most women will never talk about.
The story included her full name and was read, at last count, by nearly 900,000 people. I did my best to warn her that the story, which included her photo, could have a tremendous impact on her life. It could stigmatize her.
I wish this woman only the best, and I admire her brave honesty, just as I'm sure Oprah wishes Nash only the best.
Still, in the age of the Internet, it's hard for anyone in media to understand the full ramifications of his or her actions.
What's more, it's harder and harder for anyone to say "no" to anything. Even Oprah.
